Everyone should stop reading any article titles ’30 places to travel before you turn 30’, ’21 things you should have learnt by the time you turn 21’, ‘8 habits you should quit before you turn *specific milestone age*’ because they are destructive and full of shit.
I’m about to drop a bit a truth here so strap in.
Everyone grows and learns and develops and finds happiness and gets married and does stupid things at different rates.
Some people experience wild business success at 21 and some people don’t get it together until they are 40, some people fall in love at 16 for the rest of their life, some people will be deliriously happy and single for the rest of their lives.
And reading that you should have ‘found the style that suits your body type’, ‘been fired from a job’ or ‘fallen in love with a bad boy’ by a certain age is a express lane on the highway to misery and I’m-not-good-enough-town, which I used to be the mayor of.
I sometimes still visit that town and the streets are filled with people I recognize, I know the feeling of total dissatisfaction, the questions about why was I made so sub-par and unable to achieve all of these things that I’m suppose to already have done.
But do you know what else is fun? Letting people do what makes them happy, letting people be what makes them happy, letting people take their time, whether it be 3 years or 48 to work their own shit out, to walk their unconventional, twisty, sometimes backwards path and discover exactly what it is that they are supposed to do.
Some people go backpacking straight out of college, some come up with an invention that changes the world by 23, some will find a Greek island and hide there for 4 months when they are 32, some will never leave their home town and have 8 kids, and some people will drink 4 cups of black coffee every morning until they are 84.
None of them are better than you. And you are not better than them.
There is no amount of failed checklists that should change your journey.
There is nothing wrong with you.